I heard on the internet that a sports thing happened last night, and while I don’t tend to follow sports things outside of the Olympics, after a few people posted videos of LeBron James crying, my interest was piqued because while I don’t follow sports things I enjoy sports emotions. Which is probably why I enjoy the Olympics.

Which led me down a rabbit trail of finding these shirts. I want the Columbus one. I’m not getting paid for that; they don’t know I exist.

Which reminded me of a conversation I had at a recent foster care training when another family asked me why I chose to be licensed through a neighboring county and not my own. And with the grace and finesse of a functioning adult, I said something smart to the effect of,

“I think I chose the one where I didn’t have to actually make a phone call.”

Honestly, my other reasons are equally awkward, if not more awkward:

  • It felt right. It really did. But I’m still working on finding words to say this in a not crazy way. So far I’m comfortable with “I had a gut feeling” because that is accurate.
  • I liked the website design.
  • The trainings fit well with my work schedule, which didn’t happen at any other agency. (This is a good reason and I should use it more often).
  • The agency was the second most responsive overall, and the first most responsive via email. One agency called me nearly immediately and I had a nice conversation with the recruiter though I knew I wouldn’t go with them. The next contact I got was an email from my agency a couple days later. I received information from others months later.
  • The racial demographics of my county made me assume I would end up having white children, and to be honest I really didn’t want white children. I wanted to shift the balance of our family to be slightly less overwhelmingly white, and also shift any confusion over my brother’s and my relationship into something more like of a general haze of confusion all around. You can see how well that worked out. Once we met, I wanted my children more than anything, but when speaking in hypotheticals, my plan was for my family to look slightly less like a Cedarville alumni gathering.
  • I am honestly just in the mindset of knowing I have to drive out of town to accomplish anything, because there is nothing in town. 33 years of need some shoes? go to Columbus, need an oddly specific type of household product? go to Columbus, want a burrito? go to Columbus have resulted in a Pavlovian response. It’s just become a default.

In the interest of full disclosure, my town got a Chipotle but it is so poorly managed and confused that it bears no resemblance to Chipotle and should consider changing its name to something else, anything else — heck, call it a Qdoba, just lower my expectations. We also got a Starbucks a couple years ago that defied all odds and is consistently awesome, so much so that I still get a happy little feeling of surprise every time I realize that Starbucks is a thing I can have! Right now, if I want it!

 

In conclusion, I have now provided little helpful information for anyone in the beginning process of their journey, but perhaps this can stand as a testament to not needing to do extensive research before jumping in. My thought process was something along these lines. Steps 1-2 can be completed at any point.

  1. I want to be a foster parent, and I would ultimately like to adopt.
  2. I’ll Google everything!
  3. I have a home with space and I can afford stuff, so maybe it’s time to get serious.
  4. I’ll fill out the contact me form on every agency’s website so now the burden to follow up with me is on them and I don’t have to remember anything!
  5. Agency(s) follows up, hopefully by email so you don’t have to remember to return a phone call or forget what was said 10 minutes later.
  6. DONE. With that part anyway.

 

In conclusion, that’s how I chose my agency, and congratulations to the Cleveland Cavaliers for playing the sport and winning the points and emoting enough to make me take notice.

If you are interested in becoming a foster parent and have completed steps one and two, please feel free to contact me and I will provide more specific guidance and advice on arbitrary ways to make extremely important decisions.